When you think about compassion, what comes to mind? The definition is sympathetic consciousness of others' distress together with a desire to alleviate it. I believe this is one of my strengths and also something that causes me a great deal of pain. When someone around me, or that I hear of is in pain or has a problem, I naturally want to help and often find myself taking on their issues as my own when trying to alleviate them.
But, when it comes to compassion for myself - I really suck! I am actually one of the first people in line to beat myself up. I don’t give myself the same grace that I give to others. This is something I am really trying to work on. I am currently working with a spiritual Coach (as an aside - I highly recommend everyone do this) and we are currently working on compassion for self.
Let me tell you that when we did our meditation together the tears just flowed from my eyes unexpectedly. Why do so many of us have such a hard time taking care of ourselves? I don’t have the answer, but I can tell you I’m working on it and I hope you will, too! My coach challenged me to send her 5 ways I want to be loved/treated and 10 things I love about myself each day for two weeks and it is HARD! Some days are harder than others. But, I’m finding with each day it takes less time to be willing to write. We’ve even had a few good laughs about it!
I’ve realized that this is important not just for myself, but in order to be able to give the compassion and love I want to give to others. I first have to be able to give it to myself. That’s my motivation because in all honestly my life vision is all about helping others and I’ll need to bring my A game! Thanks to my incredible coach, Kannetha, my mantra this week is - I am pure love, and damn lovable!